How to see through love in the lies?

Scientists have done a paradox of the experiment, the measured maximum lifetime when the lying and found love, we love to lie. Funny, right? However, experienced people will smile ... ...

Love is an illusion made of human hands, there is no "magic" will certainly not romantic, but the reason why the "magic" because there are lies. The street a couple Rujiaosiqi, if this was a lie detector X-ray radiation have been, you will see the same lies as elaborate cobweb through, the two parcels together ... ...

So, love is a lie contest of strength, in the love parade, you must first shut off the lies.

　　Do not expose some lies
This world who do not do not lie, only people who do not admit that he lied. So fear not lovers lie, for fear that he lied is not recognized. So if you honestly got a little older, you definitely do not think integrity means lying, then you can basically withdraw from the arena of love. Because the world of love, honesty = lie + pragmatic and sincere cheated. If you want to "train" a lover does not lie, do not expose the Ta!

"Wife, you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen ... ..." "husband, you are the smartest I have ever met the man ... ..." This kind of deception, everyone knows to enjoy, because it's good or say love meaning is obvious. But there are some lies they need a little common sense psychology can be distinguished.

Kogaya boyfriend will be working overtime every Friday, which made her very depressed. Good time for the weekend, and always want their own ride. However, by chance, she heard her boyfriend's colleagues say they do not work overtime on Fridays, this information is simply Kogaya thunderstruck, "he lied to me, why? Is he cheating on it?" Suspicious of her Friday secretly to her boyfriend in a company, at the door waiting for him to see, in the end he will see who. To wait for the results, her boyfriend did not go downstairs, she was unable to go, then on to find him, her boyfriend and colleagues found that playing computer games, very devoted, he did not see her there ... ...

It turned out Kogaya and her boyfriend love has often stay together, and colleagues to reduce the circle of exchange. He needs some self-space to meet the interest in playing games, and the establishment of interpersonal needs. Co-workers always busy at work on Friday after the end of the week, to stay together to play games, but Kogaya has been playing computer games do not like him, if he does not put forward on Friday with her, playing games, she will get crazy . So he chose to lie.

If you are Kogaya, how would you do? Washed directly in front of her boyfriend asked: "What are you working overtime?"; Or call out his name is kicked, and then Meng Biao: "You can not accompany me, but you can not lie to me" lines.

But Kogaya did not do it, she quietly pulled out of the office, his home. Other night, called her boyfriend over, she said softly as before: "We discuss a matter, because some of my girlfriends complain about my Zhongseqingyou hope that a small get together every week, on Friday as part of our future The 'Freedom Day', it, anyway, you will work overtime, if the rate of complete classes, and colleagues you can play for a while, eat a meal, drink, dance, do you think? "boyfriend happy to accept.

Then, every Friday, then called her boyfriend Kogaya, directly, said: "I do play games with my colleagues, you and sisters together how?" And Kogaya sister party, has become one of her good interpersonal circle.

Her boyfriend is no longer the need to lie, because Kogaya found his needs, and respect for his lies and gave him self-respect and freedom.

And Kogaya boyfriend, like many lovers lie, not because the situation changed, but because occasionally need to self-Ta space. Ta to meet their own needs, but also do not want to dispute aroused, made too much trouble to spread a panic. Such a lie is not to hurt others, but for some of their freedom.

Some also want to reduce the motivation lies trouble, such as two appointments, one person has come to call to ask another person, where are you? The other 10 stations obviously worse, but will lie and say their 2 points worse; Another example is early in a relationship, some boys chasing girls, it will also fibbing, such as their pre-tax monthly salary of three thousand, say tax ... ... not after the three thousand great circle of his own condition when he said some, for their love to each other; one of my friends are female forensic, but when blind date, but will always say that they do general practitioners, and to avoid just one men across occupations, to back away ... ...

It is best not to expose some lies, as panic spread that does not mean dishonest, but is loved in the desire to express a sincere - and I really care about your feelings, I hope you were all close, I want to You do not get angry, etc ... ... in making the heart sometimes needs - I need some space, I need you to find out about me some, I need to show their good side and more.

See through the lies are not lovers smart, really smart is to know how to respect each other's needs. When you keep the windows of paper, but to meet the Ta's mind, he will naturally open the window to embrace you.

　　Some of you have to see through the lies
Zhang's girlfriend said to him: "I love you, but my mother does not like you, so we do together, do not let people know you?"; Tsuruko's boyfriend said he just fell in love with a divorce out, but how is not willing to divorce certificate to her, said: "lost when moving, looking for a while ... ..." Lisa and her boyfriend dated for three months, once a common trip, her boyfriend for only a a room, see Lisa reluctant to on Lisa said: "We only Baoyi Bao, nothing to do ... ..."

Such a lie sometimes because of love, we will not see, but the observer: you do not see through them, often waiting for a heart. So that we need to have a bottom line, not the bottom line is love red fall - any motive for the possession, but not really responsible for this lie in love, can not be endured. See through the moment, we must leave.

No one can tell you see through the lies of the standard, it is entirely a "live experience", we have to play gooseberry more, there are some obvious lies hidden purpose, and they had nothing cute, they are themselves a kind of hint, suggesting that this person simply not worthy of love, not worth to spend a second time. Cheng Xu's girlfriend told him that the man often is with her colleagues, in fact, it was her other boyfriend; micro-Ru lie to her boyfriend said that he was seriously ill relatives needed the money, took the money to gamble micro-Ru ... ... Such a lie, once to see through to nothing to say. The other party will cheat, that is, purposeful damage, fraud accusations, just let yourself become more embarrassed. Still got the message, some people do not waste time for such lie is that there is no other mind you, only yourself. His cry: "Why do you lie to me?" As silent walk out.

However, do not deny their own experience of holding deceived or deny the majority of people honest. If one is a lie, so that you can not trust him, laden with anxiety, it is better to leave early. Ta lie if the firm has indicated that he does not love, got the message on the left, do not self-deception, love is not love to leave tomorrow, but still will say to themselves: "Ta love me", so silly, is not it? - That old tickets have been unable to board the Ta of the wreck, do not rub the hand goes bad on paper. Although their lies can ease the sad moment, but will become addicted to the poison. Or accept the reality, start all over again someone will ask again proved that there are well-intentioned lie.

Love is a lie, and some to justify, and some to hide, some to be loved, and some to share ... ... different motives, we decided to open eyes or closed eyes. 90% of sweet talk is not true, but you want to believe; and some small lies to love you, but do not be forgiven in the deception; some lies need time to prove its good intentions, and some lies to hide my life ... ... we have to When a lie becomes a contest of strength wise, we must carefully examine the motives that lie, not the lie itself.

As the two fall in love with the mill Tiechu, trust and responsibility to the past to pull the past, some frustrating, several rounds of perseverance in order to finally get the marriage of the "needles."
For honest got a little older, sometimes the damage love can be tolerated as part of a lie, do not expose it, and forgive it's selfish, is trust.
But people do not want to be responsible for the lies, to understand that it implies, this is not a fair in love, know how to give, to get the responsibility.
Lies do not make a fuss of, or perspicacious needs of each couple after the contest of strength lies in order to become more relaxed and the couple.